Learn how to spot anxiety in your child & tools for how you can best support them.

One in ten children and adolescents experience anxiety at a level which causes them to have problems doing things (e.g. going to school, trying new things, hanging out with friends, or performing their best). Knowing when to get help for your child can be tough. Worrying is both normal and helpful, which is one of the reasons why knowing when it has become a problem can be tricky. Anxiety comes in all different shapes and sizes. Here are a few of the most common types of anxiety that we see in kids and teens:

  • Separation Anxiety – Characterised by excessive worry and distress when separated from ones’ caregiver in routine or familiar situations (e.g. school or going to a friend’s house).
  • Social Phobia – Characterised by excessive fear of negative evaluation or being the centre of attention in social
  • Generalised Anxiety Disorder – Characterised by excessive and persistent worry regarding several routine things (e.g. doing well at school, not getting into trouble, always being on time, being a good friend, world events, etc).
  • Specific Phobia – Characterised by excessive worry about a specific object or situation (e.g. high places, needles, dogs, the dark, etc).
  • School Refusal – While not a disorder on its own, it can occur as a result of any of the

Doesn’t Everybody Worry?

Yes, everyone gets anxious, and it is both normal and helpful. However, for some, anxiety becomes unhelpful and stops them from doing things. For these kids, anxiety happens more often, more easily, and more strongly.

Worry becomes unhelpful when it…

  • is out of proportion

Jenny worries about failing her maths exam despite never receiving a mark less than 90% on previous exams. She worries so much that she feels sick in the stomach, and has trouble falling asleep for three weeks before the exam.

  • is more than most

Alex worries about something bad happening to his parents when they’re not together. He worries so much that he cannot go to sleep unless his mum stays with him. Sometimes it takes him a couple hours to fall asleep, and even then, he gets very upset if he wakes up when she’s not there.

  • interferes with life

Josh is afraid of dogs and it’s getting in the way of him spending time with his friends and family. Josh can’t go to his best friend’s birthday party because he knows a dog will be there. He has also refused to go on the family holiday because he has heard there might be dogs there.

Recognising Anxiety Disorders In Kids & Teens

Here are a few signs to look for if you’re worried your child or teen might have an anxiety disorder:

  • Often asks reassurance questions (e.g. “Is this right?”)
  • Stomach aches or headaches
  • Distress if a mistake is made or when routine changes
  • Disobedience or aggression to avoid feared situations
  • Avoids unfamiliar situations – They may become sick or not turn up (e.g. school camps or excursions)
  • Appears unhappy – Can always find a potential danger in a situation
  • Distress regarding school despite no apparent difficulties

Why Treat Anxiety Disorders? Don’t Kids Just Grow Out Of It?

Anxiety left untreated can lead to low confidence, missed opportunities, and even depression. The good news is that there are things you can do to reduce worries and fears. In fact, everyone can benefit from learning skills to cope with anxiety.

When To Seek Help

  • If the stress or anxiety symptoms seem much more than peers
  • If stress or anxiety is leading to avoidance of important activities
  • If stress or anxiety is causing a lot of distress and/or interfering with daily activities and/or general life goals

Parents – How Can You Help?

  • Supportive listening
  • Encourage young people to talk by listening
  • Empathise with their feelings
  • Beware of role modelling
  • Expectations and criticisms
  • Role model ‘imperfectionism’
  • Reinforce positive behaviours
  • Give more attention to what you want to see
  • Foster independence
  • Assist young people with problem solving
  • When it is helpful, step in and be their advocates
  • Have fun together
  • There’s nothing more valuable than attention and love

What Now?

If you feel your child or adolescent may be suffering from an anxiety disorder, it may be best to seek support from a health professional. If you are unsure about what/who might be best able to support your child or adolescent, please give us a call or send us an email. We are more than happy to assist in getting you linked in with appropriate supports.

 

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